Paying attention and happiness (part 4) – active listening

Hello and welcome to this month’s neuro blog! Last month, we discussed other-awareness and landed on the notion that disagreement – about beliefs, values and behaviours – is more likely to be the norm. I advocated tolerance but also proposed that you put on a metaphorical Detective Columbo’s raincoat (no need for the cigar nor the dishevelled look) and go look for the other’s person’s inner landscape, asking open questions to give them the freedom to respond as they wish, and thereby letting a new reality emerge – theirs. [Read more…]

Embracing Diversity – Part 2

How to Create a Constructive Outer Dialogue

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Hello and welcome to the second of two articles on the subject of diversity. In a preceding article, ladderwe went on an inner journey, one which looked at what we tell ourselves when we meet someone we perceive as different. That journey took us in five steps from a place of fear to one of appreciation. When we appreciate diversity, ours is a mindset of curiosity, whereby we are able to wonder about another person’s unique characteristics. When we appreciate diversity, we are able to consider the differences between us and them a non-judgmental fashion. If you missed this article, you can catch it up by clicking here.

In this companion article, we continue to look at diversity as that process which allows colleagues sharing the same workplace to both recognise and value their individual differences. We will revisit the inner dialogue we developed and complement it with elements of an outer conversation. These five steps are the rungs of the "diversity ladder", a two-pronged methodology which combines looking at our inner thoughts and elaborating a possible dialogue with someone as we embrace diversity.

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Embracing Diversity – Part 1

First Take a Look at Your Inner Dialogue

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Hello and welcome to the first of two articles on the subject of diversity. Diversity has appeared comparatively recently in professional settings but it hasdiversity as an acronym a long history when considering the political realm. Think of the apartheid period in South Africa: this was a struggle for diversity though this was not the terms in which the fight to end racial segregation was articulated. Diversity is also at the core of the US Civil Rights Movement.

This article is not meant as a history lesson so let me pause here. The diversity I would like to engage you about today is that which allows colleagues sharing the same workplace to both recognize and value their individual differences. These differences can be along the dimensions of, among others, race, gender, sexual orientation, socio-economic status, age, physical abilities, and religious or political beliefs, to name a few.

Diversity is a mindset of curiosity and exploration: the state of mind whereby one wonders about another person’s unique characteristics and the process which follows whereby the differences between two individuals are discussed in a non-judgmental fashion. In this article, I want to invite you to take an inner journey, one which looks at what we tell ourselves when we meet someone we perceive as different. A journey from fear to appreciation.

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